Oodleday

So it’s hot news on Gawker that Modern Bride’s Bride of the Year has a site where she and her fiance have requested guests’ contributions to pay for their honeymoon.

Um.

I’m aware that this is a ways off for me and that I will come off as more arrogant than usual and I may change my tune but…no, I really won’t. This is so tacky and rude I can’t even start talking about it. It’s a $9000 honeymoon to Bora Bora and their guests already had to shell out cash for a destination wedding. Disgraceful. My mother would disown me.

I don’t know, maybe her guests are loaded and this isn’t a big deal but….it’s SO rude…. I mean, if you want a big expensive honeymoon, shouldn’t you save up for it? Or something? Am I wrong?

See, my wedding will go a little something like this, pending my fiance being cool and my mother in law not wanting the society event of the year or whatever. It’ll be like…100 guests MAX, sitting in white wooden folding chairs out in a pasture at my Mema’s, when the summer sun is setting, with the cicadas wheezing in the background. Me in a white lace dress and flipflops, him in a nice suit, and all the women in hats. My mom got married in a hat, and that will be my something borrowed. We’ll hold hands and our guests will bring ribbons to tie around our wrists as a symbol of their commitment to help us make our marriage strong.

We’ll hang lights in the trees and the food will be like thanksgiving. People can bring stuff if they want. We’ll have a Janie’s cake-that will be the biggest wedding expense- Priorities, people. Then we’ll dance into the night. And it will be perfect.

And then we’ll drive off, the next day we’ll go on our honeymoon and not tell anyone where it is because it’s none of their business. :o)

All of this will come out of me and my fiance’s pockets unless his/my parents can/want to help, because it’s not about my parents blowing a ton of money on me or skeevy relatives at an open bar or who designed my dress or how it’s written up in the paper, it’s about me saying “I do” and him saying “me too”. Though I’ve obviously daydreamt about it whatever I’ve thought up will pale in comparison to the actual day because the emotions involved will make everything all the more special.

I think people get divorced so much because they want weddings instead of marriage and not-being-alone instead of being together. I don’t think we have great examples of lasting marriage on TV anymore…or in the news… I picked up a copy of Jane from 2001 and everyone in their “will they make it?” game was already divorced. So sad. I get snarky whenever I see that yet another high school classmate’s gotten married or pregnant… I just want to be like “really? You’re willing to switch gears and be self-sacrificing for the rest of your life already?…..ooookay. Enjoy life with Angus.”

Today Laura canceled wings with me so she could have quality time with her husband because he’s been really stressed lately. That’s what that should look like. I am completely fine with being canceled on for husbands but I’m not sure I’m at the point where I would cancel for mine. I can’t even prioritize assignments correctly, I don’t know how I would manage with people. And dude, how unsupportive would it have been to be all “Ho please, no one drops LP and I don’t care how dope your boo is!” Lame.

I guess that’s the crux of my abrasion towards these people’s moneymaking endeavor. It’s based on selfishness and has no place in context of an event borne of love and unity and servanthood. I talk about marriage so much on here because it’s something I probably think about 2-3 times a week. It’s a big thing to think about. And it makes me very sad to see stuff like that.

Thoughts?

May 29th, 2007 | Category: Daily, Family, In the News | Subscribe to comments | Leave a comment | Trackback URL